Is Chasing Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Worth It?

Stop chasing fake friends.

Stop chasing toxic relatives.

Stop chasing uninterested women.

Yes, these are easier said than done. We can tell ourselves a million times not to chase after people who don’t want us, but we still do it anyway.

So, why can’t we let them go?

Sometimes, you still hold on hoping that the love you give will be reciprocated someday, or because you believe that their disinterest and lack of enthusiasm is part of the relationship.

As a result, you continue to settle for less and give your all to someone that doesn’t even care about you.

As early as now, I’m asking you to stop this nonsense. You may not feel it now, but it’s slowly destroying you. Here are a few signs to know that you’re not loved in a relationship:

You always get hurt.

You think it’s normal because you’re blinded by your love for them.

There’s no perfect relationship, so your partner can hurt you whether they want to or not. However, no relationship should constantly hurt and make you feel lonely.

Being with someone who doesn’t love you will drain you. So, do you think staying in a one-sided relationship is worth losing yourself?

You feel you’re not enough.

No matter how much effort you put into the relationship, your partner will never appreciate it. You can go from giving flowers to cooking their favorite food and they still won’t like it.

You begin to feel that you’re not enough, making you doubt your capabilities and value as a partner. Worse comes to worst, you’ll end up hating yourself because you think you don’t deserve to be loved and cared for.

You become obsessed and needy.

Have you ever found yourself craving their time and attention despite their counterintuitive behavior? You just love the thrill of chasing that it becomes more rewarding than the relationship itself.

Apparently, it’s the dopamine driving you wild.

According to Standford Professor, Robert Sapolsky, dopamine levels spike when there is a high level of uncertainty. Pursuing an unrequited love is, obviously, the definition of uncertainty.

Additionally, romantic rejection also triggers a part of the brain that’s connected to addiction, cravings, and motivation. So, don’t get shocked if you find yourself getting needy and obsessed with your partner.

If you continue doing this, you may become toxic and your partner may even turn the tables, painting you as the bad guy in the relationship.

You’re always anxious.

Chasing someone will make you feel a roller coaster of emotions. When they give you even the slightest bit of attention, you’ll feel like you’ve hit the jackpot. But, you’ll also feel desolation the moment they ignore you.

You’ll be racked with anxiety and relentlessly question their commitment and love for you because, truthfully, there is no stability in the relationship.

Don’t let someone destroy your worth.

No matter how much you love someone, they don’t have the right to make you question your value.

There are people out there who will give you the love and care you deserve without you having to beg for it. So, never settle for a person who walks all over you. Instead, find someone that’s right for you.